
One of my old entries came to mind this morning for reasons I won't go into now, so since it's summer repeat season anyway, I'll just C&P it into this little box. From May 2002:
I often find myself amazed by the human propensity to draw conclusions based on inadequate data. We jump to the most incredible conclusions when we have no real way of knowing the situation, don't we?
Of course, we can never manage to acquire all the relevant information. We still need to make decisions sometime. How can we know when our data is insufficient? How do you learn to recognize when you need to keep searching for clues and when you need to stop procrastinating and make your choice already?
Shortly after my father died, one of his friends told me about a conversation she'd had with his girlfriend. The friend had been surprised to discover that while his girlfriend knew me, she didn't know that my father had any sons. "Isn't it amazing," said the friend, "the way we compartmentalize our lives? His family was obviously very important to him and he obviously cared about her, but you kids were in one part of his life and here she was in another and never the twain shall meet." Ms. C was preparing to wax philosophical. She was on a roll. Yet I interrupted her with:
"Actually, she knew about my brothers."
"She did?"
"Not only has she met them, but she's met their wives, joined us for family dinners at their houses, and played with their cats."
"Then why did she...?"
"She's recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's."
Sometimes all it takes is one piece of information to radically change your perspective on a situation. One little piece can make all the difference in the world.
I've got this feeling that I need one little piece right now and I have absolutely no idea where to find it.