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[hummingwolf]

Why is it so often the case that losing something we value hurts less than losing the dream of something better?

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[sophy.livejournal.com]

I don't know, but that's so true...

[hummingwolf.livejournal.com]

Yep.

::sigh::

What happened?

[megthelegend.livejournal.com]

::hugs::

Re: What happened?

[hummingwolf.livejournal.com]

Not something that'd seem so important from the outside, and not something I really want to talk about. ::hugs:: back.

Re: What happened?

[megthelegend.livejournal.com]

I completely understand if you don't want to talk, of course, sweetie.

But please don't ever think that I/we only want to hear about the "important" stuff. The trivial stuff matters too. Sometimes it's more important than the important stuff, and God knows it upsets the hell outta me at times.

Anyway, sending psychic brownies your way.

xxx

[stronae.livejournal.com]

I could answer that question with some degree of sanity, but I don't think that's exactly what you wanted. What happened? ::Hug::

[hummingwolf.livejournal.com]

Actually, it does make me wonder. I mean, I've lost quite a lot of things/abilities/relationships/stuff in general that were really important parts of my life, yet loss of a dream still hurts more than many losses of real things.

I don't really want to talk about it, but thanks for the ::hug::!

[stronae.livejournal.com]

Actually, it does make me wonder.

Well, for me at least, it usually goes back to potential, and existence. I'm a mathematician, so simply the knowledge that a certain event *can* happen is often enough to keep me going, even if it's not going to happen for some time. The potential is there, so I can console myself to wait for it, or work harder for it.

Once the dream is gone, though, then so goes hope, and thus the (perceived) loss of potential. No matter what I do, a given event will no longer happen. Now the scope of reality has been curtailed, and I'm forced to work in a slightly smaller universe. As a side effect, it might start a chain reaction of realizing that a whole field of events will no longer be possible with the disappearance of the first one.

Sorry this is late. Take care.

[windsparrow.livejournal.com]

The _things_ we lose, even relationships, are adjuncts, peripherals of our lives. Dreams are bound up with who we are - we _are_ our dreams.

... sending lots of snuggles and hugs....