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Sunday, October 9th, 2005 08:15 pmFor the past couple of weeks I've been operating in a state of quasi-denial. I know what needs to be done, or at least I know what I need to begin to find help with even if I don't know what kind of help I might need. There's no denying that I need to do things, then. But while I've got that knowledge in one part of my mind, I've been acting like it didn't really apply to me. I've been calm largely because I haven't let myself think. It's a good thing I've got a lawyer for the Social Security, because that would surely be one of the things I'd avoid dealing with otherwise.
A few things have gotten screwed up. This semi-denial hasn't exactly been a great idea in some ways. But I've been trying to deal with these things alone for a long time, and my ability to cope simply vanished. Disintegrated. If I let myself think about the things I'm supposed to be dealing with, unhealthy as I am, I've felt rage boiling up inside. Some pop-psychology types tell you that anger is really fear in disguise, or tell you that fear is really anger in disguise, and that if you're really happy you must be very sad, and no emotion is at all what it seems. Well, I can tell you that my anger is anger--and fear. Which came first I don't know, but I needed to take a break to get the chickens to stop laying more eggs.
So I haven't called up or walked into bureaucracies, haven't been reading or otherwise paying much attention to the news (except for the weather), have been listening to music in languages I don't understand, have been functioning at a superficial level. It hasn't been brilliant strategy, but in the complete absence of help from anyone else, it's been necessary for me to take a little vacation.
A few things have gotten screwed up, though not, I believe, irreparably. This weekend I finally wrote a list of things to do tomorrow which should help begin to get things moving again. I'm thinking again. Not thinking too deeply yet, but thinking. Here's hoping I can find some way to get back to my life again.
A few things have gotten screwed up. This semi-denial hasn't exactly been a great idea in some ways. But I've been trying to deal with these things alone for a long time, and my ability to cope simply vanished. Disintegrated. If I let myself think about the things I'm supposed to be dealing with, unhealthy as I am, I've felt rage boiling up inside. Some pop-psychology types tell you that anger is really fear in disguise, or tell you that fear is really anger in disguise, and that if you're really happy you must be very sad, and no emotion is at all what it seems. Well, I can tell you that my anger is anger--and fear. Which came first I don't know, but I needed to take a break to get the chickens to stop laying more eggs.
So I haven't called up or walked into bureaucracies, haven't been reading or otherwise paying much attention to the news (except for the weather), have been listening to music in languages I don't understand, have been functioning at a superficial level. It hasn't been brilliant strategy, but in the complete absence of help from anyone else, it's been necessary for me to take a little vacation.
A few things have gotten screwed up, though not, I believe, irreparably. This weekend I finally wrote a list of things to do tomorrow which should help begin to get things moving again. I'm thinking again. Not thinking too deeply yet, but thinking. Here's hoping I can find some way to get back to my life again.