I wouldn't assume that someone was incapacitated by something like this just on the weight of what I've read here. I do think that when something gets to the point where you have to request that someone else modify their behavior in their online journal, though, things are at a level that is disruptive.
While there is nothing wrong with admitting "Hey, this is how it made me feel", it does seem a little more drastic to actually suggest people put up warnings or otherwise go out of their way to cater to the insecurities of others.
I suggested a way to maybe make it easier on your end, because I didn't think it really fair to expect someone else to do that. Requesting people not do things that bother you in your own journal, okay... but it isn't fair to ask them to worry about everyone else's feelings, when those feelings are not healthy ones to start with, in their own journal.
I've just seen this get way out of hand. It starts with disclaimers, then moves on to "trigger warnings". It might get worse than that, but I never stick around long enough to find out. I refuse to put up trigger warnings, myself, and the closest I ever come to a disclaimer is when I wrote up the Bitch Manifesto and posted it. If I tried worrying about everything that might set anyone off, I'd have to put up warnings for everything from BDSM to fluffy bunnies in easter hats, before it was all finished.
In the interest of being constructive and helpful, perhaps it might have been a healthier and happier approach to read this post and ask yourself if there was *more* you could do to combat the insecurities, and if the defensiveness you felt over this might not be another manifestation of those insecurities. Because I just can't think that having to ask someone to post things with disclaimers is a healthy way to face the world, nor do I think it fair to ask them to just *accept* that they have to catch flak for what they post in their own journal. It isn't their Issue, they shouldn't have to deal with it at all.
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While there is nothing wrong with admitting "Hey, this is how it made me feel", it does seem a little more drastic to actually suggest people put up warnings or otherwise go out of their way to cater to the insecurities of others.
I suggested a way to maybe make it easier on your end, because I didn't think it really fair to expect someone else to do that. Requesting people not do things that bother you in your own journal, okay... but it isn't fair to ask them to worry about everyone else's feelings, when those feelings are not healthy ones to start with, in their own journal.
I've just seen this get way out of hand. It starts with disclaimers, then moves on to "trigger warnings". It might get worse than that, but I never stick around long enough to find out. I refuse to put up trigger warnings, myself, and the closest I ever come to a disclaimer is when I wrote up the Bitch Manifesto and posted it. If I tried worrying about everything that might set anyone off, I'd have to put up warnings for everything from BDSM to fluffy bunnies in easter hats, before it was all finished.
In the interest of being constructive and helpful, perhaps it might have been a healthier and happier approach to read this post and ask yourself if there was *more* you could do to combat the insecurities, and if the defensiveness you felt over this might not be another manifestation of those insecurities.
Because I just can't think that having to ask someone to post things with disclaimers is a healthy way to face the world, nor do I think it fair to ask them to just *accept* that they have to catch flak for what they post in their own journal. It isn't their Issue, they shouldn't have to deal with it at all.